7 Pieces of Advice I Would Give My Younger Self

7 Pieces of Advice I Would Give My Younger Self


River Island Fur Jacket // River island Hat // River Island Jumper
River Island Jeans // River Island Boots


Hi everyone, happy Tuesday! I’m back to you with a new outfit again. If you follow me on Instagram (@retroflame), you may have already seen this one, but just incase you missed it, I wanted to share all the details here too, along with a little chat below. This full look is from River Island, one of my favourite brands as you know and it really is the typical kind of look I wear day-to-day here in NYC at the moment. It’s still freezing here in the city so it’s all about the layers….& of course, coats that feel like blankets!! I can’t get over how much I love this embellished faux fur. Isn’t it stunning? Such amazing quality and a very striking piece to have in your wardrobe. I paired with it lots of my usuals – my black Molly jeans (I live in these), my black boots & a grey knit. Oh and I can’t forget my new Black Baker Boy hat. It took me a while to try out this trend but I have to say I love them.



As well as showing you the outfit, as you know, I always love to have a little chat in these type of posts too…& today’s chosen topic? The 7 pieces of advice I would love to give my younger self. It really is true that, ‘you live and you learn’, and although I still have a LONG way to go, there are definitely some things I wish I could go back and tell myself. So here are 7:

1. It’s ok to NOT know what you want to do with the rest you life.
In fact, you definitely shouldn’t know yet! Life is all about trial and error and until you try something out, you’ll never know for sure. So keep an open mind, say yes to every opportunity that comes your way, remember it’s OK to change your mind ….& if you hate a job – LEAVE!

2. Stop buying bad quality things.
In 10 years time, I bet you’ll still have ZERO of them. Save your money & invest in quality pieces that you’ll have forever. Less is always more.



3. Often, your Mom IS actually right.
She’s been around the block, she knows what she’s doing. So as much as you think she’s making things up or trying to drive you crazy, you’ll look back in years to come and wish you had listened first time round.

4. Trust your instincts.
They’re never wrong. When it comes to boys, friends, jobs, trips, nights out…& any big decisions you have to make – just go with your gut. Sometimes you’ll be wrong and you’ll learn some lessons the hard way but never feel forced to do anything. Trust your own judgement on things, don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself and things will always work out the way they’re supposed to.

5. You don’t have to do what everyone else is doing.
Please please please just do what YOU want. When you’re young, you’ll so often be scared to stand out but it won’t be long until you learn that this is actually a very good thing. No one becomes a hit by being the exact same as everyone else. So start that blog, turn your idea into a business, move to New York…do whatever it is that makes you happy. Because that’s how you’ll STAY happy. And trust me when I say, the ones who laugh at you or talk behind your back at the beginning, will eventually be the same ones who would love to be in your shoes.




6. Never put a boy before the important things.
Friends, family, values or just anything that is important to you. Never even think of putting a boy before any of them. I promise you, you will always regret it if you do. Boys come and go and remember, the right ones will always make sure that you stay 100% true to yourself.

7. The best is yet to come.
And finally, STOP worrying. Believe it or not, this is just the beginning. The very best is about to come and you just have no idea how well things are going to work out. I know people always say that things happen for a reason, but they really do. So enjoy the confusion, don’t take things too seriously, be a good person and just HAVE FUN! You’re so lucky to just be here :)


 There definitely are a lot more things I would say too, but these 7 little nuggets of advice would be at the top of the list.

Hope you enjoyed this post and be sure to catch up on my latest video if you haven’t had a chance yet. See you on Thursday for another shopping post :)

Erika x

*Thank you to River Island for partnering on this post.


  1. Ann Bergin

    30 January

    Such excellent advice Erika.
    You are one sound lady.
    You will go far.

  2. Shloka

    31 January

    I think I would tell myself all the same things. My mom really is always right. I wish I hadn’t bought so many bad quality pieces when I was younger, and your gutt never leads you astray! I love this embellished jacket babe!


  3. Jade

    1 February

    so true!! I realized not to buy bad quality things a while ago, still working on most of the other points. Thanks for providing so much clarity!

  4. Frances

    1 February

    Love this post Erika !! All points that are so true! Basically stay true to yourself, trust your gut and do what you want! I completely agree that it is hard to be fearless but you’re so right when you say that those who talk baout you at the beginning are the ones who will end up loving to be in your shoes! xx

    Frances Kayleigh | Fashion & Lifestyle

  5. Eloise

    3 February

    everyone thinks i’m crazy when i say its better to invest on high quality fashion pieces in the long run so thanks for throwing that one in there haha.

    Couldn’t agree more about leaving a job you hate- life’s too short

  6. Marisah

    5 February

    This truly hits home! Thanks so much for your constant inspiration & motivation. Keep doing what you’re doing

  7. K&E

    11 February

    Love this – so so true! Xoxo, K&E

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