Hi everyone, Happy Monday! As always, delighted to be back with a chatty Monday post. I’m so excited to share the start of the beautiful Barbados photos/videos I have to show you. If you follow along on Instagram (@retroflame), you’ll know that since coming back from Barbados things have been a little crazy to say the least. I got back to New York for 1 day after the trip, before flying straight to Ireland last Monday and since then, it really has been go go go. I’m currently back in Ireland for different work projects & events and this post is coming straight to you from beautiful Kerry :) It really has been a week to remember being involved in some amazing events and I’m happy now today to be back at my desk to get you up to date on everything. I’ve been vlogging everything as always (are you subscribed to my youtube channel?) and will be sharing two videos and all my outfits from Barbados this week. I CANNOT wait to show you everything in more detail! But first up today, I wanted to kick it off with some stunning sunset photos we captured while we were there.
The evenings were my absolute favourite time of day – the light, the temperature, everything was just stunning and I knew as we were walking along the beach one evening and I was wearing this AMAZING Zimmerman dress, we had to get some shots!! I’ve been such a huge fan of this brand for the past few years and literally stalk their new arrivals on Net A Porter every chance I get, so I jumped at the opportunity to wear it. I was very lucky to choose some pieces for this trip from Net A Porter (the queen of online stores) and I can’t wait to show you more favourites this week.
While I was in Barbados, I read a book called ‘Relentless’ by Tim S. Grover and I really don’t even know where to start telling you how much of an impact it has had on me. I’m a big motivational book reader. I know they’re not for everyone but I love the positive impact they have on my mindset so I’m constantly reading new ones. It’s not that I’m always learning new things from them, a lot of them seem to have the same ideas/concepts, but it’s the way they make me think. I’ll have read something on Monday, for example, and it has an impact on how I approach a project on Wednesday. It’s all about mindset.
I found this particular book, Relentless, through a US blogger I follow (it was actually her husband that was reading it) and I added it to my Amazon cart straight away. I knew it would be a little different to other books I’ve read and so I was excited to try it out. I have a whole video about other motivational books I’ve read HERE, and you’ll know from that that up until now, the Gary Vee books were the ones I raved about most. With everything in life, I love a no-fluff, no sugar-coating approach and that’s exactly what the Gary Vee books are….& I’m excited to say, so is this new find, Relentless.
It’s written by a professional basketball coach, Tim S. Grover, and there’s no doubt about it, it’s a book which is harsh and to-the-point. He has trained people like Michael Jordan and Kobe Bryant and this book shows exactly what it takes to be the best. Not just great, but the BEST at whatever it is you do. When I told Tommy it was a book about a sports coach he literally looked at my twice, but trust me when I say, even if you don’t have the slightest interest in sport, this book is still for you. You can ALWAYS learn something from someone who is the best in any industry and wow, has this book opened my eyes. I literally could NOT stop reading it and finished it in under a week.
It’s a book that talks about different kinds of people and personalities and explains exactly why the best are the best. It’s 100% not your typical ‘be positive, everything will be great’ type of book but instead it focuses on the reality. Hard work & persistence is what makes you the best. Nothing else. I definitely will say this book isn’t for everyone and I’m 100% sure some of you would probably hate it (don’t say I didn’t warn you). But if you’re the type of person who wants nothing more than to make yourself proud & have no regrets, than go RIGHT now and buy this book.
I won’t go into too much more detail because I don’t want to spoil anything for those of you who will go and buy it, but I really wanted to use today’s post to share some key excerpts that really stood out to me while I was reading it. Of course, you’ll get a much better insight when you read the whole thing yourself, but for now, here are five points that will be stuck in my head forever more:
1. “Not everyone gets the opportunity to be stressed by the potential to achieve exceptional things.”
2. “You have to stop thinking. It’s so basic. Are you good at what you do? Maybe even great at what you do? Can you be the best? Yes? If you said no, I’ll give you a moment to change your answer. Again: Can you be the best? Of course you can. Then why are you still questioning your ability to do it? Quick answer: because at some point, you made something simple into something complicated and stopped trusting yourself.”
3. “I know what you’re thinking, “It’s not easy”. Well if it were easy, everyone would do it. Lots of people start things; few are able to finish. Why? They don’t trust themselves to get to the end. They start thinking about everything that could go wrong, second guessing their choices, listening to others instead of listening to themselves. Anyone can have a great idea…it’s what you do with the thought that defines you.”
4. “Remember, you don’t compete with anyone, you make them compete with you.”
5. “There are no secrets. There are no tricks. If anything, it’s the opposite: Whether you’re a pro athlete or a women running a business or going to school, it’s simple. Ask yourself where you are now, and where you want to be instead. Ask yourself what you’re willing to give up. Then make a plan to get there. Act on it. Now.”
This is literally just the tiniest glimpse into the book – there is SO much more. It’s a little hard to explain but throughout the book he talks about and compares 3 different personalities: A cooler, a closer and a cleaner. The cleaner being the person he describes as having the ability to be unstoppable. His chapters cover how each of them handle decision-making, sacrifices, pressure, knowing who you are and there’s also a really interesting chapter about the importance of trusting the people around you. He explains that ‘when you’re a cleaner… you trust very few people and those you trust better never leave you down’. This chapter really stood out to me.
But as I said, overall, I was absolutely glued to this book for the whole week and I can’t encourage you enough to give it a read. I know it won’t be for everyone, but I also know that some of you, like me, will be wishing it never ends. And even if you don’t fancy reading it, as always, I hope you picked up something from the above quotes :)
Let me know if you read it and I’ll see you tomorrow with the first of my Barbados videos.