Photos By Lisa Richov
Givenchy Bag // Zara Boots (Similar HERE) // Illesteva Sunglasses
Happy Wednesday everyone! You know when you buy something new and literally wear it every day, for about 3 weeks – well that is this jacket. I CAN’T STOP!! It’s a River Island find that I got sent to my house in Ireland so I would have it for Christmas and it’s probably one of the nicest things I’ve found online in a while. Seeing as it’s been pretty chilly here in New York ever since I got back, I’ve literally been wearing it any chance I can get because the faux fur inside makes it VERY cosy! It’s no surprise really that it’s already sold out online (it went fast!!) but I found you two similar versions which are actually a little less expensive, so definitely take a look at them HERE & HERE. Also, how fun is this ‘Babe’ t-shirt? All linked below too (just click on the photo)….
As I was brainstorming ideas for today’s post, I won’t lie, I had a little bit of writers block. Since coming back to New York, things have been pretty full on. I’ve been trying to do A LOT and I guess my mind was in need of a break. So I grabbed a cup of coffee, went on Pinterest in search of a little inspiration (what I always do when this happens) and also sent out a tweet asking you guys if there was anything in particular you would like to see… and one of the responses really caught my eye. A lovely girl called, Aisling, suggested I do a post about ‘the things I worried about in the past that don’t matter now’. I thought this was a really interesting idea and straight away so many things came to mind.
I’ll be the first one to say that I’ve always been a bit of a worrier. When I was younger, I literally got nervous about everything and really did put so much pressure on myself. Whether it was a football game, a big test or something to do with my blog…I worried. And now looking back, I realise just how silly all that worry was. As I’ve gotten a bit older and especially since moving to New York, I’ve definitely calmed down A LOT. I still like everything I do to be done well but I’ve learned that worrying doesn’t make this process any easier. And this isn’t just related to work, it’s true for so many other aspects of life too. As crazy as New York is, I think it’s moving here that has taught me this lesson most. It’s given me a little more confidence in myself and as a result, has made me less uptight about life overall.
Most of us are just too hard on ourselves. Full stop. So in my opinion and from my experience so far, here are 5 things you need to stop worrying about NOW…
1. People Not Liking You/What You Do
As soon as you start to accept the fact that not everyone will like you or what you do, you’ll be a hell of a lot happier. After 5 years of putting myself out there online, I’ve come to realise that there will always be people that just aren’t a fan of me and/or my work. And it’s perfectly fine!! There are a lot of people who annoy me too. We all have different tastes in things, people, whatever it may be and as soon as we stop trying to please everyone, that’s when the worry will stop too. You just have to be yourself. Growing up in a small village and going to a relatively small school, I think there was always this constant idea of worrying about ‘what other people thought of you’. But as I’ve gotten older and moved to a city full of every kind of different personality you can imagine, this worry has stopped. I always mention the following quote because I just don’t think it could be any truer. “You are you and that is your power.” So be yourself and and if they like you, they like you and if they don’t, then that’s their issue to deal with.
2. The End Result
I read this really good article last week about the obsession we all have with thinking about A-Z, instead of first focusing on A-B and working on from there. We all want to do things, we all have goals but we get so caught up in worrying about how we’re going to do them all at once that it actually slows down any progress we could be making. So instead of worrying about all there is to do, you need to step back and realise that you just have to take it all ONE step at a time.
Comparison – the thief of all joy!!! Why do we all do it so much!? I always get so confused when I go online or go onto my Instagram and see people comment really nasty things under people’s photos or posts. I just can’t help but think ‘why does is matter to you so much what they’re doing!? Is it really worth your time to comment? There are so many better ways you could be using your time!” It baffles me!! I remember reading a brilliant quote a few years ago and it really stuck with me. It was, ‘Her success is not your failure”. We can all win. Just because someone else may be doing a little better than you right now and you might wish you could be in their shoes, does not mean that you can’t get there yourself some day. As the years have gone by, I’ve really began to see other peoples successes as motivation. If they can do it, so can I! There’s nothing stopping me. So stop comparing. Instead, be happy for those people you meet every day, follow on social media, whoever…. and use their story as inspiration for your own.
Personally, I think this is one of the most important things we all need to stop worrying about because there isn’t a thing in the world we can do about it. We all make mistakes, we all do things we wish we hadn’t and we all have regrets. Just like all of you I’m sure, there are so many things I used to beat myself up about – things that literally would keep me up all night worrying. It still happens me from time to time (there are always mistakes to be made) but I’ve learned to accept the fact that everything does actually happen for a reason and even if it is the biggest mistake/regret of your life – you have to learn from it and MOVE ON. There is always a new lesson to be learned and so instead of focusing on the past, you need to just bring this lesson with you to your future.
5. The Small Stuff
..and finally, we NEED to stop worrying about the small stuff. Whatever it is you’re worrying about right now/this week – take a step back and ask yourself, will it really matter this time next year!? More often than not, the answer will probably be NO. In a weird weird way, everything has a way of working out exactly the way it’s supposed to. You mightn’t think it at the time, but you just wait. What’s for you will never pass you, there’s a way to solve even the biggest of problems and nothing is ever as bad as you think.
As I’ve learned to ‘calm down’ a bit over the last year or two, I can honestly say life is a lot less-stressful and I’ve actually become more productive than ever. So even if you just take one of the 5 above points on board today, I’ll be happy. Life is scarily short and so we need to cut out that worry and make the most of every day we have!
Have a great Wednesday everyone & be sure to keep up to date on my Instagram & Snapchat (retroflame1),