Am I ever going to move home?




If you follow me on Instagram (@retroflame) you’ll notice I’ve gone a bit Central-Park-Crazy! But you really can’t blame for this one, it’s absolutely stunning in there right now! This weekend, I literally spent every spare minute I had strolling from one corner of the park to the next and as I mentioned in one of my Instagram posts, it really reminded me of exactly why I decided to move here day one.

It also got me wondering about how many more Autumns I’ll be here for. Two questions I get a lot are ‘Why did you move to New York?’ and ‘Are you ever going to move home to Ireland’? I usually have quite a lengthy answer to that first question (which I’ll share in a future post) and my answer to the second question is usually that ‘I don’t really have an answer.’ I honestly don’t even know myself! I know that might sound a bit crazy, but I really do believe that I’m going to stay here in New York for as long as I possibly can. My current visa is for 3 years so I’ll obviously have to see what happens when that is coming to an end, but right now, I can’t imagine myself anywhere else in the world. Moving back to Ireland in the LONG-LONG-term is always a plan I keep stored in the back of my find – I love the idea of having kids (maybe one day) in Ireland and of course, my family and so many of my closest friends are still there but it would have to be when I was 110% ready.




When I tell this to some of my friends or new people I meet, they tell me straight away that I’m crazy. They try to convince me that a) I should be experiencing other parts of the world or b) I’ll eventually grow tired of New York. And you know what, they might even be right but as long as I’m happy myself about where I am and what I’m doing, I don’t have a care in the world about anything people tell me I ‘should’ or ‘shouldn’t be’ doing. Of course, I’m still going to travel to as many different places in the world  and experience as many different cultures as I can in the meantime, but at the end of each trip, I still want to keep coming ‘home’ to NYC. It just never gets old.

It’s funny, when I moved here first I always thought that that after 2-3 years here, I’d begin to start planning a move home or at least a move somewhere else in the world. But if I thought I was addicted to the place back then, I had no idea how much more addicted I was about to get. I genuinely am head over heels about this city I’m lucky enough to live in and I don’t plan on leaving it behind any time soon. The move to my new apartment and going full-time with Retro Flame has almost given me that second wind I needed and I can honestly say, I’m probably happier here now than I ever was before.



Now I’ve never been one to sugar-coat things though. New York isn’t all fun & games. Moving to New York comes with MANY ups and downs and you have to be ready to take the good with the bad. But if you still love the place after a day from hell here than you’ll know right at that moment that you must SERIOUSLY love it.  Of course, I like to keep everything as professional and positive as possible, but if I’m having a bad day here in NYC, you’ll more than likely know about it from my snapchat (retroflame1) or I’ll be very honest with you here on the blog (like this personal post I wrote a few months ago). I’ll be the first one to say that it just isn’t the city for everyone. Some people move here and have enough after a year or two. Some people move here and realise straight away that it just isn’t for them and that’s also TOTALLY fine. And then some people, like me, move here and it all just kind of clicks together. I’ve met like-minded people, I’ve had the opportunity to work on projects I’ve always dreamed of and I still wake up every morning with that ‘anything can happen’ mindset this city drills into you.


Photos by Tara

iClothing Khahi Coat (Similar) // Aritzia Leather Leggings (Similar) // Black Knee High Boots (Similar HERE & HERE)
Forever21 Stripe Jumper // Givenchy Antigona Bag // Celine Sunglasses (Similar) // CLUSE Watch

There’s a good chance I wouldn’t last two seconds living in so many other parts of the world but while I continue to wake up each morning in New York and still get excited about walking outside my front door then this is where you’ll find me. Here in New York putting up with every crazy situation it throws at me and loving every single minute of the challenge.

So If all your friends are moving away, but you absolutely love living at home, don’t for one minute feel pressured. But if you’ve grown tired of where you’re living or where you’ve moved to, it’s time to make a change. It really is as simple as that. It really doesn’t matter where in the world you are as long as you’re happy.

Hope you all have a great week!
Erika x



  1. Shelley

    7 November

    If I could move to NYC in the morning I’d be gone! 😊 I think your dead right, if you love it then why leave? Enjoy it while you can xx

  2. Maisy

    7 November

    I hope I get the opportunity to experience New York like you Erika 😊 If you love it there why should you have to leave ! You do what makes you happy , your a fantastic role model for young girls like me ☺️

  3. Meghan

    7 November

    LOVE this outfit and would wear it in a heartbeat – here’s to staying in NYC as long as we feel we want to :)

  4. My city has a lot of immigrants, I even met a guy who came here on vacation and never came back! It’s good you’ve found a new home in New York, so who cares what other people think? And the park does look gorgeous! x

  5. Kelly Lookbook

    7 November

    These photos are gorgeous! Your outfit is so chic and complements the background of autumn leaves so beautiful :)

    Kelly Lookbook |

  6. Nicole Coltman

    8 November

    Your instagram snaps have been making me so so excited for my trip soon.


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