All or Nothing.




Photos by Tara Marzuki

Michael Kors Suede Jacket (Similar Here) // Aritzia Leather Pants (Similar) // Topshop Boots // Celine Sunglasses (Similar) // Chanel Bag // CLUSE Watch


“Be all in or get out. There is no halfway.”

For as long as I can remember, I’ve just never been the kind of person who could fake something. If something is wrong, if I know I don’t like someone, if I’m not crazy-excited about something, if I don’t feel happy in a situation or if I’m just having a weird day – I can’t fake it. You’ll always know with me when something is wrong. (The girls thought I was dead when I didn’t put up a snapchat for 24 hours this weekend, haha!) Anyone who knows me well will know that I’m very transparent and although this may get me in a little trouble from time to time, I’m really glad that’s the kind of person I’ve turned out to be. Of course, I always keep things as professional as possible especially when it comes to my blog/business, but I also have a duty to be very honest with myself and also to each and every one of you. I just can’t do things half right and I don’t think I ever will. It’s always all or nothing. So when there are days that I have a blog or social media post ready to go, but I’m just not ‘all-in’, that post will always just have to wait until I’m ready.


I actually had this outfit post ready to go live on Monday – but you know when you’re heart just isn’t fully in something? That’s kinda how I felt the last two days, so I didn’t want to force it. Not that I don’t love the outfit (it’s full of so many of my favourites – especially that jacket!), it’s just I knew my heart wasn’t fully in putting up a post. Even though this blog is my full-time job, I just wasn’t feeling myself and therefore I couldn’t pretend to put something up that wasn’t a true representation of me on that day. That’s the one thing I really don’t like about social media & blogging. So many people we follow are so scared to share the bad side. Of course, there are things that I will always always keep personal but if I’m having a day where I’m just not winning at life, I will never have a problem taking a step back and being honest. I mean it’s only normal, we’re all only human – and we all need a break from time to time. And more often than not, as soon as we give ourselves even a 24-hour break, we bounce back even better than before.


And this isn’t just in relation to blogging/work. I truly do believe that with everything in life, if you’re not 110% sure & certain, you need to take a step back until you are. Doing things ‘half-right’ will never get you anywhere and it sure as hell won’t make you happy in the long-run. It’s OK not to be fully certain about something, but it’s NOT OK to settle for ‘half-right’. In fact, it’s never OK to just ‘settle’ for anything and I’m really beginning to realise that now more than ever. If you’re not all in, you need to get out until you ARE all in. If you know your heart isn’t in something, always be brave enough to admit and realise it. It’s not always easy but you’ll always be thankful you did.

See you back here tomorrow for another post & I’m also back to my usual snap-happy self over on Snapchat today (retroflame1).

Erika x


  1. Such a lovely look! Love that jacket, so pretty! x Laura

  2. Lou M.

    16 November

    Beautiful outfit, love the boots and the bag

  3. Elishia

    17 November

    I want a jacket like that so much, but I don’t think I can pull it off, it looks beautiful on you! sorry you haven’t been feeling it recently 😞

  4. Laura

    17 November

    I love how honest you are, it’s so refreshing. I have so much respect for people who wear their hearts on their sleeves, probably because I relate more to these people as I am very much a heart on my sleeve person. I find myself not trusting people who aren’t real or open about their lives. You don’t need to expose everything but you can talk about insecurities, as the reality is, we all have lots of them. I am fed up of ‘perfect’ bloggers, it’s boring and unrelatable. Carry on being you, you are such a lovely person x

  5. Kristin U

    18 November

    Thank you for writing this! I’m right there with you – I’m always the one trying to be honest all the time and give everything my best, but like you said time to time it gets me in a little trouble. However I think it’s totally worth it and wouldn’t want to live any other way. PS.Such a gorgeous jacket and boots!! Love them!

    xoxo Kristin

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